Would you like to be more self-confident at work, as well as in your private life? Are you stressed about feeling that others have not understood your intentions, needs and feelings regarding a certain topic? Will you get all tense and anxious whenever you need to present in front of an audience (whether that be a presentation or your own agenda)? Do you feel challenged whenever there is a possibility for a conflict, as you tend to look at these as battlegrounds instead of an opportunity to discuss differing needs?

Many people have the above set of issues in my experience as a business coach. Those who only lament on these topics internally, will likely be unable to change their habits – as we usually aren’t even aware of how we say things: what is our responsibility, what could we do differently, say differently to have a different ending for our ’usual’ conversations? This is where I can help you as a communication coach.

Your communication skills can greatly influence your private life, the quality of your relationships at work and as a partner to someone; your chances for promotion; the frequency, amplitude and outcome of your conflicts; your self-confidence, self-worth, the amount of perceived stress sources in your life; your feeling of being content. It also has an impact on how easily you can build new relationships or attract someone new and significant in your life; or how others see you when you present something about an important topic.

The below topics are all effected by communicating ’badly’. If you can see yourself somewhere in a bullet point, give me a call to set up a coaching session, where we can start sorting out things for the better. Why is this important, you ask? Because if you can let go of communication related stress factors, you will likely have a much more balanced, content, focused life, that will enable you to reach your goals sooner and more effectively. That’s it.

Self-worth:

  • How and to whom do I tell about myself (and my achievements) that could result in positive feedback?
  • Being reserved and withdrawn: if I don’t say anything, I won’t get hurt. But doing this, no one will know my thoughts on a topic. How can I change?
  • Why does a certain colleague get a promotion, and I don’t?

Self-confidence:

  • I envy X so much, while I don’t see how I could become more self-confident. What am I missing, I don’t get it…?
  • I know so many things, but if I start talking, everyone will feel I am a smartarse. But if I don’t say anything, it appears I don’t even exist for others. Where is the fine line here?
  • I felt confident a while ago, but this feeling just evaporated lately. I don’t dare to open my mouth in certain situations.

Happiness, satisfaction, being content:

  • How could I make others become aware of my strengths? …and make them ask for my help in those topics?
  • Who asked lately (and whom did I tell lately) what makes me happy and engaged at work in a professional manner? When do I feel content?

Stress:

  • Stress caused by interacting with others
  • What must I write and say differently in a work environment to reach my goals quicker?
  • Why is it so difficult to be on the same page with my boss, colleagues, direct reports?
  • Why do I tend to take home work related stress?
  • I have a panic reaction from certain topics. What could be behind all this?

Problem-solving:

  • I deal with people all day, but I didn’t sign up to listen to problems and solve them 24/7. What should I do?
  • How can I become a more self-confident partner to others: what must I change in my communication style?
  • How can I convert problem solving into a source of joy, instead of feeling stressed about such situations?

Anxiety (and decreasing it)

  • How can I express myself in a way that reflects what is important for me (assertive communication)?
  • What must I do to make others open up to me?
  • How can I stop people from aggressively taking charge over me and my needs (line managers, teammates, colleagues, etc. – or my partner in life)?